Child Psych Podcast Episode #175

Dr. Laura Markham is a clinical psychologist trained at Columbia University, founder of AHA! Parenting, and a trusted voice in peaceful parenting and child development. She is the author of bestselling books including Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings, and Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook. Known for translating research into practical, everyday strategies, Dr. Markham helps parents foster emotional regulation, connection, and resilience in children.

Introduction to the Conversation

In this episode of the Child Psych Podcast, we explore one of the most important shifts in modern parenting: moving from control and reactivity toward connection and emotional awareness. For parents, caregivers, and professionals supporting children’s mental health, understanding the “why” behind behavior is essential.

Dr. Markham reframes common parenting challenges—tantrums, defiance, backtalk—not as problems to punish, but as signals of unmet needs. This perspective is especially valuable for those navigating anxiety, big emotions, and behavior struggles in children and teens.

What We Discuss in This Episode

This conversation dives into the foundations of peaceful parenting, emotional regulation, and co-regulation. Dr. Markham explains how children’s behavior is often a “bid for connection,” and why ignoring or punishing behavior can escalate challenges over time. Instead, she emphasizes curiosity, empathy, and clear boundaries.

We also explore the neuroscience of child development, including how a parent’s emotional state shapes a child’s brain, stress response, and long-term mental health. From toddlers to teenagers, the episode highlights how connection builds self-discipline, resilience, and cooperation—without relying on punishment or yelling.

What You’ll Learn

• Why children’s misbehavior is often a signal of unmet emotional needs
• How to shift from yelling and reacting to calm, intentional parenting
• Practical strategies to build emotional regulation and cooperation
• The role of co-regulation in healthy brain development
• How to set limits while still practicing gentle or peaceful parenting

Who This Episode Is For

This episode is ideal for parents, educators, therapists, and caregivers who want practical, research-based tools to support children’s emotional development. Whether you’re raising a toddler, navigating the teen years, or working in child mental health, this conversation offers valuable insights to help you build stronger, more connected relationships with the children in your care.