Child Psych Podcast Episode #177

Dr. Gaiathry Jeyarajan is a University of Toronto–trained physician and professor specializing in trauma and children’s mental health. She is an award-winning author of children’s books including Ellis Choice and I Love You More Than Rice and Curry, which focus on consent, identity, belonging, and anti-racism. Drawing from both her professional expertise and lived experience, her work helps families raise compassionate, confident children who embrace diversity.

Introduction to the Conversation

In this powerful conversation, we explore what it truly means to raise children who feel a deep sense of belonging—and who actively help others feel that same sense of inclusion. In today’s world, where children are exposed to differences, bias, and social messaging earlier than ever, parents and educators play a critical role in shaping how children understand identity, empathy, and fairness.

This episode offers a grounded, developmentally informed perspective on how belonging begins in early childhood and how parents can nurture emotional safety, confidence, and compassion at home.

What We Discuss in This Episode

We begin by exploring the developmental roots of belonging, including how secure attachment lays the foundation for children to feel safe in the world. From there, we unpack how children begin to notice differences in race, appearance, and identity—and how these observations are shaped by environment, exposure, and social messaging.

The conversation also dives into how empathy develops, why open conversations about race and discrimination matter, and how parents can respond when children witness or experience exclusion or bullying. We highlight the importance of moving beyond avoidance and instead fostering curiosity, emotional awareness, and respectful dialogue in everyday parenting moments.

What You’ll Learn

• How a secure attachment at home supports a child’s sense of belonging and confidence
• Why children naturally notice differences—and how to respond in healthy, developmentally appropriate ways
• How to foster empathy and help children speak up when they see unfairness or exclusion
• The impact of avoidance vs. open conversations about race, identity, and bias
• Simple ways to model inclusion, curiosity, and courage in everyday parenting

Who This Episode Is For

This episode is for parents, educators, therapists, and caregivers who want to raise emotionally aware, inclusive children. It’s especially valuable for those navigating conversations about race, belonging, bullying, and identity, and for anyone looking to support children’s mental health, social development, and empathy in a complex world.