Child Psych Podcast Episode #156
On this week’s episode of The Child Psych Podcast, we had the pleasure of speaking with autism specialist Jonathan Alderson, author of Challenging the Myths of Autism and founder of Thrive Guide. Together, we unpacked some of the biggest misconceptions about autism—and shared what parents and professionals really need to know.
Autism Myths vs. Autism Reality
For decades, autism has been framed through outdated stereotypes. For example, parents were once told that autistic children could not engage in pretend play. Yet in practice, Jonathan saw countless children demonstrate creativity and imagination during play therapy.
The takeaway? We need to question assumptions. Especially when those assumptions limit what children are capable of.
The Myth of the Five-Year Window
One of the most harmful myths is the idea that if a child hasn’t learned certain skills by age five, it’s too late.
What We Know Is True
- Early intervention is powerful and important.
- The brain is especially receptive in the first few years of life.
What’s Not True
- Learning does not stop after age five.
- Children continue to grow and develop throughout childhood, adolescence, and adulthood.
In fact, research shows there’s a second major brain growth spurt in early adolescence, offering fresh opportunities for learning. Jonathan shared stories of children who spoke their first words at age seven or later.
Takeaway for Parents: Change is possible at any age. Don’t lose hope if progress seems delayed.
Rethinking “Stimming” and Rituals
Parents often worry about behaviors like rocking, hand-flapping, or lining up toys. These are often called “stimming,” but Jonathan explains that this term comes from outdated theories suggesting such behaviors were purposeless.
Today, professionals use the term Repetitious and Ritualized Behaviors (RRBs)—and research shows they often serve important functions:
Takeaway: Instead of asking “How do I stop this behavior?” shift the question to “What purpose is this behavior serving for my child?”
How Parents Can Support Their Child’s RRBs
Jonathan shared three simple steps parents can use when responding to repetitive or ritualized behaviors:
- Accept and Understand – Let go of judgments and stay curious.
- Investigate – Work with professionals who aim to understand, not suppress behaviors. Explore medical, sensory, and emotional factors.
- Join – When appropriate, gently join your child in their behavior (with permission). For example, rocking together can help build trust and connection.
Instead of isolating a child by stopping behaviors, joining them says: “I see you. I accept you. I’m with you.”
Shifting Our Perspective on Autism
Autism is not defined by limitations—it’s defined by possibilities. By challenging myths and broadening our understanding of neurodivergence, we create space for autistic children to thrive.
Core Message for Parents and Professionals:
- Change is possible at any age.
- Behaviors are communication—seek to understand before trying to stop them.
- Acceptance, curiosity, and connection are the keys to supporting autistic children.
Want to Learn More?
Jonathan Alderson’s book Challenging the Myths of Autism dives deeper into seven major myths, including affection, socialization, IQ, and evidence. He also runs Thrive Guide, an online platform offering individualized support plans and parent training.
You can also follow him on Instagram at @thriveguide.co or sign up for his free weekly AIM email (Attitude, Intention, and Motivation) at thriveguide.co.
By shifting away from myths and embracing a strengths-based approach, we can better support autistic children and their families—helping them feel accepted, understood, and celebrated.
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