Child Psych Podcast Episode #179

Dr. Ross Greene is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and the creator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model. He is widely known for transforming how we understand challenging behavior in children, shifting the focus from punishment to problem solving. His influential books, including The Explosive Child and Raising Human Beings, are used by parents, educators, and clinicians worldwide to build more compassionate, effective approaches to behavior and emotional regulation.

Introduction to the Conversation

In this episode, we explore a powerful reframe that challenges traditional discipline strategies. Instead of viewing children’s behavior as defiance or lack of motivation, Dr. Greene invites us to see it as a reflection of lagging skills and unmet needs.

This conversation is especially important for parents, educators, and professionals navigating aggression, anxiety, or challenging behavior in children. When we shift from “they won’t” to “they can’t yet,” we open the door to connection, understanding, and meaningful change.

What We Discuss in This Episode

Dr. Greene explains why common approaches like rewards, consequences, and behavior charts often fall short. Rather than solving the root problem, these strategies focus on managing behavior without addressing what is actually getting in the child’s way.

We dive into the CPS model, which centers on identifying “unsolved problems” and collaborating with children to find realistic, mutually satisfying solutions. Through real-life parenting and classroom examples, the conversation highlights how empathy, curiosity, and proactive problem solving can reduce conflict and build stronger relationships.

A key takeaway is that behavior is communication. When children struggle, they are showing us where support is needed, not where punishment is required.

What You’ll Learn

• Why challenging behavior is a skills issue, not a motivation problem
• How to identify “unsolved problems” behind meltdowns, aggression, or shutdowns
• The 3 key steps of the CPS model: empathy, defining concerns, and collaborative problem solving
• Why consequences don’t solve the root causes of behavior
• How to reduce power struggles and build cooperation through connection

Who This Episode Is For

This episode is for parents, educators, therapists, and caregivers supporting children with big emotions, behavioral challenges, or anxiety. It is especially valuable for those feeling stuck in cycles of conflict or discipline that are not working.

If you want practical, research-informed strategies that prioritize connection, emotional development, and long-term skill building, this conversation offers a compassionate and highly effective path forward.